We are bound to meet lots of different people as we trudge through life. Some of them end up carving a special place in our hearts because of their loving and humble personalities; however, sometimes our paths cross with people who are not quite so pleasant. In a worst-case scenario, we end up coming across a toxic person who drains us emotionally and batters our self-confidence.
Toxic people are tricky to spot and it is equally challenging getting rid of them. Usually, a person’s toxic nature starts affecting us when we are compelled to interact with them daily. In such cases we often find our lives interwoven with these negative people in a way that it is very difficult for us to simply pack up and leave or ask them to do the same.
3 Types of Toxic People
Here are 3 types of toxic people and ways to spot them early so you can nip the evil in the bud and avoid the headache of becoming too involved with them from the get-go:
1. The Attention Seekers
These are the ones that frequently show passive-aggressive behavior. You can never be sure of what their mood will be like; they could be bubbly and sweet one day and give you a complete cold shoulder the next day. They are the biggest attention seekers; this is why they would never address a problem with you directly. They always want you focused on them by keeping you busy figuring out what is wrong with them.
By giving you the silent treatment or acting stand-offish they shift the playing field in their favor from the start. You are left feeling insecure and confused as you go over all the things you could have done to annoy them. And this way they have conquered you mentally by convincing you from the beginning that the fault lies with you.
If you are often on the receiving end of the silent-treatments it is time to re-evaluate your relationship.
2. The Control Freaks
They would throw the biggest tantrum when you do even the smallest things slightly different than what they want. They would go ballistic and hurl abuse because they feel threatened that you might escape their tight grip. Once they calm down they would simply pin the blame on you for their outburst, they would try their best to convince you that you provoked them by not doing as they asked. They would insist they have your best interests at heart and it is because of this that they blew up.
If you find yourself you have to hide seemingly small things from someone or you are constantly anxious about angering them then that is a big red flag.
3. The Never Satisfied
These are the ones who would go out of their way to help you but they would never let you forget it. They would constantly hint at you that you have to repay their benevolence but the problem is they would never be satisfied no matter the lengths you go to please them.
They would always tell you that you are falling short; they would always show disapproval and keep you tied to them in the hopes that one day you would gain their approval.
If you a person is constantly making you feel guilty and you find yourself apologizing too it is probably best to show them the door and bid farewell.